This is a paraphrased gleaning taken from a draft of our book “The Miracle of the New Man“.
Yahshua [Jesus] did not come to bring the kind of peace that glosses over deep differences. Argument arises from those that choose to argue instead of seeking Elohim [‘God’, YHWH] and His Word. By choosing to follow the Messiah, you can look forward to the day that believers shake off superficial harmony, conflict and disagreement. Some do not choose Messiah. You and I can look forward to the day when all conflict will be resolved by YHWH, our Father. (Isaiah 9:6; Matthew 5:9; John 14:47; Matthew 10:34; “A Branch of the Vine through Trust“; “Ambassadors for Messiah? Trust in His Promises“; “Trust YHWH, Not World Leaders“)
“Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. I came to divide a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a bride against her mother-in-law. ‘Ones hostile to the man shall be those of his own house.’ The one loving father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And the one loving son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.” – Matthew 10:34-37, NKJV
Yahshua [Jesus] said that He came to separate friends and family. In saying this, Yahshua [Jesus] was not encouraging disobedience to parents or conflict at home. Instead, Yahshua [Jesus] proved that His presence demands a decision. Some will follow Messiah and some will not. Conflict will inevitably arise as you take your stake to follow Him. The values and purposes instilled in your new personality sets you apart to Him. Your trust may set you apart from your family and friends. This is to be expected. The words of Yahshua [Jesus] are not advice to neglect and hate your family, but admonition to remember your personal commitment to YHWH as your first priority. Why? Your Father calls disciples to a higher mission than to find comfort and tranquility in this life. Love of your immediate family is part of honoring Elohim. However, even the love of family can be self-serving and used as an excuse not to serve YHWH. Genuine disciples of Yahshua [Jesus] (only you can decide if this is you) must be willing to publicly identify with Him and are almost certain to experience opposition, even suffering and death. (“YHWH’s Track of Righteousness“; “Disciple: The Bible & Higher Authority“; “Divorce: Modern Family & the Authority of Law“; “Family vs. Government: The Disagreement About Parenting“)
“And whoever does not take up his torture stake and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. The one finding his life shall lose it. And the one losing his life on account of Me shall find it.” – Matthew 10:38-39, HRB
Verse 39 is both a positive and negative truth for disciples. Holding to a worldly way of life will cause you to stop the best that YHWH has for you in this world and in the next. The more you love the rewards of life on earth (leisure, power, popularity, financial gain, security), the more you discover the emptiness of the world. The best way to enjoy life is to loosen your greedy hands from earthly rewards. This enables you to inherit life and begin at once to experience the benefits of discipleship. (“Leadership & Highly Effective People“; “Living in an Apostate World“; “Discernment the World Doesn’t Have“; “Spiritual Growth & Your Eternal Reward“)
“And whoever gives only a cup of cold water to drink to one of these little ones in the name of a disciple, truly I say to you, ‘In no way will he lose his reward.’” – Matthew 10:42, NKJV
How much do you love YHWH? This can be measured by how well you treat others. The illustration of a cup of cold water to a child is a valuable model of unselfish service. YHWH notices every good deed that you do or fail to do. It is as if Yahshua [Jesus] is the One receiving what you do to the people around you. Do you know of something you can do for someone else today? Will you do good deeds even while nobody else is looking? YHWH always notices what you do. (“YHWH’s Prayer Shawl of Protection“; “Breaking the Hold of Stress“; “Family Stress Affects Generations“; “Giving to Others While Trusting in YHWH for Your Needs“; “Love Promotes Healthy Giving“)