Sex is Marriage: Discipleship & Singles Ministry

by John and Ruth Greene

singles ministry

Singles Ministry typically has a purpose that proclaims to develop righteous relationships through recreational and spiritually centered activities. For many, the hope of finding “Mr. Right” or “Mrs. Best” has been a big drawing card in Singles Ministry for decades instead of developing pure righteous relationships. Instead, this ministry often results in a smoldering pot of demonic activity. (“Romantic Attachments: Sin & Righteousness“; “Porneia: Conduct of Disciples in the Sexual Realm“)

When any ministry is not properly monitored or Biblically-grounded, a prospect that is virtually impossible in large groups, Singles Ministry easily draws a huge crowd of carnal Christians that threatens to destroy any shred of spiritual power or value in such a ministry. Many villains come because they see a ministry for singles as easy pickings to satisfy their eager lust. Others are much more innocent. Yet, how many times over the years have we witnessed the power of Satan to infiltrate “the Halls of Christianity” where Singles Ministry is concerned, sometimes bringing the ministry to a grinding halt because of the resounding spiritual failure and the resulting crisis. (“Are You In Danger of a Reprobate Mind? Sexual Sin and YHWH“)

snake-carnal-livingWhere do the ‘carnal Christians‘ go? They return to the bars and clubs,  the highways and byways of life along with the favorite haunts of internet and dating groups where they started. After all, this is where they are fully grounded: in the ways of the world. Those ‘ways of the world’ may even be emblazoned with a Christian ‘smiley-face’ of approval on it.  (Matthew  6:22,23; John 8:12 ) Scripture tells us that Satan paints himself as an angel of light. (2 Corinthians 11:14) Even among spiritually-committed single Christians, it is all too easy to succumb to the desires of the flesh because of the inability to follow scriptural advice. The plight is as old as mankind itself. (“Discernment the World Doesn’t Have“; “Agreement With YHWH – Not the World“)

Personally, we have witnessed this plight numerous times in the ‘eighties and ‘nineties, notably in large groups, as worldliness became the underpinning of an entire body of Messiah, even if temporarily. The same dangers that exist within Teen Ministry begins to run rampant as adulthood and complete freedom takes root. Those that are ‘supposed to know better’ typically waiver in their faith as the power of hormones takes control. This cycle of conduct demonstrates the danger and pitfalls of ministering to large groups of “single Christians” that profess love and trust in their Heavenly Father [Elohim, YHWH].  (1 Corinthians 7:8-16) The answerability of this kind ministry is awesome and large because of the sexual tension and carnal attitudes that exist, often unchecked. (“Homosexuality: Sex and Personal Identity Crisis“; “Romantic Attachments: Sin & Righteousness“)

The Apostle Paul admitted in 2 Corinthians 11:15 that Satan’s “servants masquerade as servants of righteousness. Their end will be what their actions deserve.” Because of this reality, is it really reasonable to become involved in a large ministry of singles when you seek after YHWH? Yahshua [Jesus] reminded His followers to “seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” (Matthew 6:33) What things? What you really need to live on earth: clothes, food, drink, the substance of life itself.

marriage and faithfulness“Christian singles” must focus on the Bible alone. That is the only way that a disciple will endure…period. Only then can you hope to refrain from getting involved in a lifestyle that YHWH said to stay away from: getting involved with other singles and their sexual activity. Never forget that regardless of the ways of the world, in your Heavenly Father’s eyes, sex is marriage. (Ephesians 5; 1 Corinthians 6:13-20) No ceremony or tradition is required by YHWH, a dramatic departure from the ways of the world. Your word, actions and conduct constitute marriage before Him. How many people have you been married to? To many folks, this is a mind-numbing proposition to consider in light of their real personal life. Even worse, the soul ties and life conflicts that embroil the participants of an uncommitted lifestyle are deeper strongholds that bind them to Satan and a demonic lifestyle. The effects are long-lasting, destructive and often, permanent in the world of man. The effects of your decisions can be permanent in your spiritual life as well. (“Thinking of Love“; “The Struggle for Purity of Heart“; “Purity Starts Inside: A Lesson Through the Ages“)

The real issue is that most ministry has nothing to do with the root of the problem which is human behavior. At the root of human behavior is every sort of stronghold that the Bible clearly outlines, but that Christian ministry typically ignores. It’s just too much work and it isn’t popular. You won’t draw huge crowds of “carnal Christians” with a message that addresses the root of human behavior that those same people long to keep. There is little point in addressing righteous purity [Elohim’s track of righteousness] if you aren’t willing to deal with the strongholds of Satan that tap into the behavior, attitudes, compulsions, addictions and feelings of mankind. (“Purity Starts Inside: A Lesson Through the Ages“; “Strongholds & the Armor of YHWH“)

Over generations of ages, the collective and continuing demonic strongholds and iniquities have continued to rage as world religion and Christians alike ignore the roots of reality in their personal lives, seeking a lifestyle of peace or satisfaction that always escapes them. The bitter fruit of jealousies, envies, bitterness, abandonment, shame, rejection, abuse, hatred, anger, control and fear destroy any possibility of effectively cultivating the fruit of YHWH’s Spirit noted in Galatians 5:22-23. Life trauma and demonic attack further cements the demonic control of the dark kingdom. Meanwhile, mankind is so steeped in the ways of the world, we can’t see the forest for the trees as we claim profound knowledge of Messiah and His righteousness. (“The Abomination That Causes Desolation“; “The Unpardonable Sin“)

How many of us boast about freedom in Messiah and never receive, much less understand that freedom. We are covered in ignorance and a lifestyle of mammon that defeats us. This doesn’t have to be. All the bitter fruits of Satan and a worldly lifestyle can be cast aside through repentance, forgiveness and application of the true gospel of Messiah shown in the Bible. (Ephesians 4:30,31) To be a righteous disciple instead of a professed one, you must be willing to give up the demonic strongholds that bind you firmly to the dark kingdom. Then, and only then, can you fill your spirit with the beautiful wonder of YHWH’s Word. By wonder, we mean wonder in comparison to the world. This is not vain hope, but application of your trust through Yahshua [Jesus]. All of this is done by and through YHWH’s love as you allow that love to be expressed in you. This is not high and mighty, but practical and real. You must want to do it without substitution and you will receive it because of what YHWH has promised His people. Are you one of them? You can be a child of Elohim, while you enjoy many of His benefits now. You must exchange the darkness for light, willingly. (“Building a Counterfeit Kingdom“; “Freedom in an Enslaved World“; “Freedom in Messiah Despite the World“)

Christian strongholdsBy turning aside from sin, conditioned behaviors, addictions and demonic attitudes, first by learning to recognize them and then by removing them through scriptural application in the Name of Yahshua [Jesus], you can be loosed from the ball and chain of demonic control in your mind and heart. Once you are free in Messiah, you continually walk that out daily as a servant of your Savior. This is life changing and will change your perspective in life, especially when compared to the ways of the world that so many talk about and continue to blindly follow.  Regardless of what you have been told, YHWH’s Word holds the answer. We are not talking about a ‘dumbed-down’ version of faith or hope that defies explanation. YHWH wants to be the stronghold of your life. You have the free will and the right to choose that Elohim gave you. Are you willing? (“Understanding Sin“; “Which Shepherd Do You Believe?“)

breaking strongholds

“For YHWH so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
John 3:16, RNKJV
Heavenly Father,
Thank you for sending the Messiah, your only begotten Son to be my Savior. I believe in Him and have made this belief the center of my life. Because of this, by faith I have everlasting life! Thank you! I repent of my sins and of my past, freely admitting that I have fallen short of Your glory. I look fully forward to you in my life and commit my life to You. Thank You YHWH, my Heavenly Father for setting me free in the name of your Son Yahshua [Jesus]. Amen.
genuine-articleYou will never enjoy true freedom through the Messiah and power of the Holy Spirit unless you read and absorb the Bible in prayer and trust. You will never know this freedom until you experience it for yourself. Get to know your Heavenly Father, His Son and allow the Holy Spirit to work in your life. The Holy Spirit is your teacher, your Holy Counselor that lives in you to help you learn about the truth of YHWH and His spiritual gifts.
Satan does not want you to have the excellence of YHWH in your life. People pray for protection and want to be taken care of, but often do little in growing close to Him. The world, your husband, your wife, your family, your government do not build your trust in YHWH or free you from spiritual bondage. Your church or your pastor cannot save you. Education, power and money will not free you, but only the Word of your Heavenly Father. Salvation is a daily walk, an act of love for yourself and for those around you, not a one-time event that centers only on you. Make the Word of YHWH your own, your very life!
YHWH is Yahweh, the covenant name of your Heavenly Father.
The names Yahshua and Yahushua are original language names for Jesus,
He is often referred simply as the Messiah or Master.
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