by John and Ruth Greene
The thought of two people that cover themselves with fig leaves in the effort to hide from an all-seeing, all-knowing Heavenly Father can strike up a humorous image in your mind. How could they be so silly as to think they can actually hide? Today we do the same, acting as though YHWH doesn’t know what we’re doing. You may try to ignore Him or pretend that He doesn’t exist. Don’t try to hide because it can’t be done. That is simply part of spiritual life, a component of the universe that He originally created. The fall of mankind hasn’t changed that reality, only your standing in that reality right now. (Romans 5:12-21) Remember that honesty always strengthens relationship and your relationship with the Lord of Hosts is no exception.
How often do you avoid honesty in the most sensitive of relationships, in marriage? Marriage gets plenty of bad press, but that is because of the rebellion of those involved, combined with the refusal to share a comfortable level of intimacy, and to increase the depth of that relationship through deeper sharing. This involves the age-old sins of lying, deceptive behavior and what usually leads to outright betrayal on some level by one or the other. It starts with refusing to trust, to share the truth with one another on some level. Some think that truth and trust is dangerous, but the truth is that refusing to be honest with one another when two people are so different (Genesis 2:27) is a recipe for disaster. The world is full of this plague. It can be even harder when you have failed in love and marriage a number of times. This is shown by the increase in failure for those that remarry, as they continue to live in ruins through separation, rejection and abandonment. (2 Timothy 3:1-5; “Knowledge of Good and Evil“; “Aspiring to Godlike Knowledge“; “Are You an Effective Listener? Listening & Your Relationships“)
Remember that it is impossible to be an ‘open book,’ either to yourself or someone else. You cannot remember all or be held accountable for everything, as if you run the world. The world would hold you accountable for your ignorance or quiet consent, but the Heavenly Father, YHWH, does not operate is such ways. False expectations fostered by the world are often the cause of terminal issues within a marriage. Even the ‘best’ of human beings are still broken creatures that need the Sanctified [Set Apart, Holy] Spirit of YHWH.
So what are you going to do about it? Refusing to get married, and pretending to enjoy the fruits of marriage, is hardly the answer. Spending your life lying to everyone including yourself is a poor cheat as well. The collateral damage in relationships isn’t dependent on marriage. It is, however, dependent on your commitment and willingness to be truly intimate, revealing and truthful with your feelings. (“Christian Conduct in the Sexual Realm“; “YHWH’s Revolution“; “Sin & the Law of Liberty“)
If you know anything about the Bible, it didn’t start out badly. Our Heavenly Father made man in His image, and created woman from man. (Genesis 2:20b-22) This is the kind of intimacy that YHWH planned for husband and wife. He intended them to be and act as one, a deeply spiritual act. (Genesis 2:24; Malachi 2:14-15; Matthew 19:5; Mark 10:7-8; 1 Corinthians 6:15-16, 11:1, 7-12 Ephesians 5:28-31) Neither one was greater than the other, but man was designed with the original authority over the earth. (Genesis 1:28-31) That is simply the order of things, but not an excuse for the perversion of authority and relationships that exists in the world today.
As hard as it is for people to believe it at times, man and woman, as YHWH created them, is the pinnacle of His creation on this earth. That is what the Bible says. As married couples that live today, we are designed to compliment one another in all of life’s matters. That is our original charge, what YHWH expects; family life grounded in Him, with answerability to Him. The human race, grounded in the family unit, is to tend and take care of the earth and all that is in it (what might be seen as the ultimate environmental message today). We are to be careful in love, just as we are careful with what is around us. This is YHWH’s purpose, and once again, a deeply spiritual act that is often unappreciated by the most people. (“YHWH’s Track of Righteousness“; “Being Set Apart Makes You Aware of Sin“)
What you see today in the world is a perversion of our Heavenly Father’s purpose. Even so, you are not worthless. He made you for a good purpose. He made husband and wife for good purpose. He made families for good purpose. Any feeling of worthlessness is not from your Heavenly Father, but the fruit of sin from our original parents, grounded in rebellion and agreement with Satan and forces of darkness in this world. (“Healing: What YHWH Wants for You!“; “Healing Wounds That People Can’t See“; “Life Healing and Belief“)
Marriage is not a dead thing, but a living covenant. That living covenant is between YHWH, the joining of two people, a man as husband and a woman as wife. It is living, in that continued action, to keep the marriage healthy. It is not an option, but a necessity, much like your active trust, your faith in the Elohim of Hosts, the truth of Messiah and your operation in the Holy Spirit. There is no substitute.
Marriage is not a dead thing, an institution with physical walls. The only walls that exist, the only confinements in your life rest firmly in your heart and mind, based on what you believe and are trying to protect yourself from. The darkness of the world shouldn’t enter into the equation, just as you should be willing to talk, reinforcing an active and vital life. It may be necessary to temper your emotions so that you do not intimidate and offend your mate. Love is required! This does not mean that you can’t express what is in your heart accurately. You must keep the spirit of the world out of your heart, your emotions and your mind. When both husband and wife operate in unity, a threefold cord with YHWH, is impossible to break. (Ephesians 5:22-32; Ecclesiastes 4:9-12) Your Heavenly Father is the stronger, and will always sustain you as a couple. When you have a failing in your communication, in your relationship, your Father is the link to success and activation of the best you can be in true faith, trust in Him. (“Christian Conduct in the Sexual Realm“; “Romantic Attachments: Sin & Righteousness“; “Homosexuality: Sex and Personal Identity Crisis“)
What about sex you may ask? Other articles that you read about marriage and rekindling your love are often dominant in romance and the “art of love.” Suffice it to say that when your relationship with your Father is sound, as we have just talked about, you present one another as Messiah loved you. Sex comes out of this reality. Your active trust or belief makes sanctifies you, as you wash one another with the Word of YHWH. (Ephesians 5:27, 6:10-20) Yahshua [Jesus] is your head as you focus on Him. What did we say? Messiah is your head…in all things. That is the way that disciples are to live. (“Are You In Danger of a Reprobate Mind? Sexual Sin and YHWH“; “The Struggle for Purity of Heart“)
Husband, your wife is your spiritual sister. Wife, your husband is your spiritual brother.
“Take a look at what you are facing. If anyone seems to trust in himself that he is of Messiah, let him reckon again for himself, that as he is of Messiah, so also are we.” – 2 Corinthians 10:7, ISR98
You must accept this truth. (Psalm 133:1) It is spiritual reality as you must be grounded in your Savior, your Master. It is real in your life unless you choose the route of the antichrist, rejecting YHWH’s Word. For you to continue to reject and abuse the Word of YHWH, spitting in the face of the Messiah, will yield only results that will harm you. The abuse of your wife or husband can result in not only the loss of your eternal life, but the same loss by your mate. The ramifications are huge. Have the confidence of the Spirit of YHWH and persist in His Will! Messiah is your authority, not the world and darkness of Satan. Your investment, your trust, yes…even your prayer will be rewarded, and you will be complete in Messiah through the power of the Holy Spirit, as you flow in His Spirit. Our Heavenly Father gave us His Word for edification (building up), not for destruction! (2 Corinthians 10:8) Please remember your spiritual reality in marriage as all of us approach the entrance of YHWH’s Kingdom! (Psalm 118:5-7, 139:11-12, 147:5-6; Proverbs 18:10; Matthew 5:14-17; 1 Peter 5:8; “Thinking of Love“; “Real Love“; “Is Your Love For Others Cold?“; “Is Your Forgiveness Real?“)
“Because we walk in the flesh, we do not serve according to the flesh. For the tools of our service in warfare are not fleshly, but powerful through Elohim to the destruction of strongholds. Destroy imaginations and all high places that are exalted over the knowledge of Elohim and make captive every mind to obedience of the Messiah. For in being prepared, put down all inattention as your obedience is complete.” – 2 Corinthians 10:3-6, direct translation