Dealing With Grief & Strongholds

by John Greene

stress at the officeLife in this world isn’t easy. Often, life is going from one loss to the next. Crisis seems to be a mainstay – especially when you observe how the world can use grief to some selfish advantage. Disciples must not avoid discussing and learning about grief. Disciples must not avoid admitting to experiencing grief, as if grief is shameful. Disciples need to be willing to offer comfort to those that experience loss. While dealing with grief is intensely personal, dealing with grief is much more effective when you have friends to help you at times, so that you are better able to recover. Still, you don’t necessarily need the kind of friends that Job had when he was ill. If you don’t have friends to confide in, you can find help and make new friends. Consider this part of a new adventure in finding a new life as you continue to heal. While isolation can prove helpful for a time, isolation is not a solution for grief. Find resources that help you and don’t forget the support that your Father offers through prayer and counsel. The idea is to soar rather than stay in the valleys. To stay in the valley of grief makes your grief a stronghold of destruction that you don’t need. (Mark 11:24; John 15:15; James 5:13-16; Ephesians 6:10, 18; Psalm 18:2, 27:1; Proverbs 17:17; Isaiah 12:2; Ecclesiastes 4:10; “A Crisis in Prayer & Spirit“; “The Provision of Healing and Health“; “Healing in a World of Rage“; “Healing Wounds That People Can’t See“; “Life Healing and Belief“)

Here are few other ideas to consider.

In the loss of a personal relationship, grief is a sign of loving or having great affection for someone rather than a weakness. There is nothing wrong with you. Yet, if untended, grief can become a stronghold that is not easily broken, leading to other destructive strongholds. The provision of your Heavenly Father is available to help you through grief in a healthy and constructive way. Strongholds can also account for some of the variability or difficulty in working through grief. (Matthew 6:33; Philippians 4:6-8, 13; Hebrews 4:15-16; 1 Corinthians 10:13; 2 Corinthians 12:9-10; Isaiah 41:10; Nahum 1:7; “Breakthrough Prayer: Grief“; “YHWH Cares About Your Pain & Grief“; “Strongholds & the Armor of YHWH“; “Breaking Strongholds of False Authority“)

“Did you not know? Have you not heard? The everlasting Elohim YHWH, the Creator of the ends of the earth, neither faints nor is weary. His understanding is unsearchable. He gives power to the faint, and to those who have no might He increases strength. Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men stumble and fall, but those who wait on YHWH renew their strength, they raise up the wing like eagles, they run and are not weary, they walk and do not faint.” – Isaiah 40:28-31, ISR98

prayer and contemplationWhile grief is personal, it is not useless to share your feelings, nor is your grief unknowable. Even though everyone is different, your Father knows your grief and how your feelings involve your personality, your past relationships and your life experience. You are not alone. You need be in active regular prayer. If you don’t have a close relationship with your Heavenly Father, this would be a good time to start. Prayer is a first step to making that happen. When you have a closer relationship, you can learn to abide in the Spirit. You have a very real Helper in the Holy Spirit [Dedicated, Set Apart Spirit]. He will help you to deal with your sorrow and to help you remove any debilitating effects over time. Reality is that grief is the stepping stone for helping you to be whole and a more complete person in Messiah. Elohim [“God’, YHWH] is center of your trust through Yahshua [Jesus] and the Holy Spirit. What you need is unmovable trust and the willingness to listen to the Spirit. (2 Corinthians 4:8-9; Colossians 3:2; Psalm 139:14-18; Proverbs 4:20-23; “Standing Strong Through Storms“; “The World, Your Emotions and Your Health“; “A Branch of the Vine through Trust“; “Abiding With YHWH in Quiet Places“)

“YHWH searches and knows. You know my sitting and rising. You understand my thoughts from far away” – Psalm 139:1-2, direct translation

strongmanWell-placed trust in your Father doesn’t magically remove grief, but helps you to more effectively deal with it, using what was grief and creating a stronger person. The intense pain will diminish, but dealing with grief is not about ignoring or forgetting. Certain memories and some achy feelings are likely to remain as a permanent part of you, at least for a time. You will continue to have feelings, but properly placing those feelings is what scripture, your Counselor and your set apart friends [disciples] are for. You don’t want grief as a destructive stronghold to tear you down or to damage your trust through a lie. You don’t want pain to disable and control you. You don’t want an idolatry to break your trust. (John 15:1-10; James 4:8; Philippians 3:12-14; Psalm 119:15; “Disciples Need Strong Communication“; “Breakthrough Prayer: Strongholds“; “Breaking the Strongholds of Egypt and Canaan in Your Heart“)

When you abide in your Father, He helps you through the trial into a new place of wholeness. This is not the same place as the past, for you are now a different person than you were. Yet, this perspective helps you rather than hinders you. You grow to understand yourself better and how your Counselor helps you through dark times. It creates a deeper bond to YHWH, as you go through grief. Your growth can be shared with others to help them in difficult times. (Psalm 28:7, 32:10, 91:1-16; Proverbs 3:5-6; “The Truth About Prayer“; “Praying in the Wilderness“; “The Challenge of Living in Righteousness“; “How to Receive the Holy Spirit“; “Are You Rejecting YHWH’s Holy Spirit?“; “The Unpardonable Sin“)

“For in death there is no remembrance of You; Who gives You thanks in the grave? I have grown weary with my groaning; Every night I flood my bed; I drench my couch with my tears. My eye has grown dim because of grief; It grows old because of all my adversaries.” – Psalm 6:5-7, ISR98

anxiety-fearRest in your Father with an open heart and mind instead of fainting from fear or feelings of loss and regret. (Psalm 61:1-3) Going through grieving is a time of great personal change. You can have unusual emotions and thoughts come to you, however briefly. While this is natural in this world, you don’t want to hold on to them as personal possessions, as if they were your friends. Standing firm in your personal trust will carry you through, keeping new strongholds of the world from making their home with you. (2 Corinthians 10:3-5; Ephesians 6:12; Hebrews 12:14-15; 1 Peter 5:8; Ecclesiastes 7:9; “Opposing Fear“; “Scriptures: Do Not Fear“; “Fighting a World of Fear & Delusion“; “Breakthrough Prayer: Loneliness“)

Come near to me, all that are fatigued and overburdened. I exempt you. Take up My yoke on you and learn from Me because I am gentle and humble of heart, and obtain rest for your spirit. For My yoke is kind and My load is light.” – Matthew 11:28-30, direct translation

“Supremely favored are the distressed in spirit because theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven. Supremely favored are they that grieve because they are consoled.” – Matthew 5:3-4, direct translation

depressionMourning doesn’t last, but the consolation that comes does heal. As a disciple, you have Elohim’s favor and loving-kindness. Your Elohim will bring you the consolation and healing that you need, even when you may not feel this healing right away. Remember that sensations and feelings are temporary. The well-being of your Father, His Presence doesn’t need to be temporary, nor should it be. (John 14:6, 16-18; 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, 7:9-10; 1 Peter 2:24; Psalm 16:11, 91:1-16, 119:50, 76; “YHWH’s Prayer Shawl of Protection“; “YHWH’s Track of Righteousness“; “The Way: Getting Stuck in a Rut – And Out Again“; “Disciples & the Occult of the World“; “The Grace of YHWH’s Vineyard“)

Remember that grief is an opportunity to build a new life of wholeness as you abide more and more in your Father, your Elohim. (Acts 17:11; Colossians 2:9-10; 1 Peter 5:10)

“For YAHWEH so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son,
that everyone believing into Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
John 3:16, HRB
Heavenly Father,
Thank you for sending the Messiah, your only begotten Son to be my Savior. I believe in Him and have made this belief the center of my life. Because of this, by faith I have everlasting life! Thank you! I repent of my sins and of my past, freely admitting that I have fallen short of Your righteousness. I look fully forward to you in my life and commit my life to You. Thank You YHWH, my Heavenly Father for setting me free in the name of your Son Yahshua [Jesus]. May it be as you have promised!
genuine-articleYou will never enjoy true freedom through the Messiah and power of the Holy Spirit unless you read and absorb the Bible in prayer and trust. You will never know this freedom until you experience it for yourself. Get to know your Heavenly Father, His Son and allow the Holy Spirit to work in your life. The Holy Spirit is your teacher, your Holy Counselor that lives in you to help you learn about the truth of YHWH and His spiritual gifts.
Satan does not want you to have the excellence of YHWH in your life. People pray for protection and want to be taken care of, but often do little in growing close to Him. The world, your husband, your wife, your family, your government do not build your trust in YHWH or free you from spiritual bondage. Your church or your pastor cannot save you. Education, power and money will not free you, but only the Word of your Heavenly Father. Salvation is a daily walk, an act of love for yourself and for those around you, not a one-time event that centers only on you. Make the Word of YHWH your own, your very life!
YHWH is Yahweh, the covenant name of your Heavenly Father.
The names Yahshua and Yahushua are original language names for Jesus,
He is often referred simply as the Messiah or Master.
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