by John Greene
“Who finds a wife of valor? Her value is far above precious stones. The heart of her husband is confident in no lack of gain. She yields honor, not evil, all the days of her life. She treads wool into thread, the power of her industry and purpose. She is as a beacon to traveling ships that bring food from afar. – Proverbs 31:10-14, direct translation
Proverbs 31 illustrates a wife of valor, a mighty wife, rather than simply a wife of modern ‘virtue.’ Nor is this woman of valor part of the world (as shown in the illustration). She is set apart in the courage and strength of her Heavenly Father, a fine treasure. How different the picture of this wife from one that is conceited, selfish and self-absorbed. (Proverbs 12:4, 18:22, 19:14) This woman of valor is the kind of wife that a man should seek and select. If he is married, he need look no farther, for he already has the foundation for a wife of valor. (“Defining Love“; “Being Set Apart Makes You Aware of Sin“; “Christians, Tyranny & the Man of Lawlessness“; “Homosexuality As Sin“; “Scriptures – Quodesh, Being Set Apart “)
The wife of valor is a fine example of YHWH’s loving-kindness, most precious to her husband and her family. She is as an army of industry, energy and protection for her family. She can be trusted fully by her husband, a source of constant benefit and righteousness that does no evil. She is set apart to her Heavenly Father. She makes great effort to prosper her husband and family, taking pleasure in every opportunity as a wise manager of her husband’s household. She reaches beyond her household, even to help those around her family. (Psalm 76:6, 84:8, 118:15; Proverbs 13:22; “The Power of Righteous Marriage“; “Submission in Marriage“; “Modern Society & Obsolete Marriage“; “Christians & the Great Humanitarian Age“)
She rises repeatedly at night, giving sustenance to her house, a measure to her young. She purposes and buys a field, fixing the increase of her vineyard from the first fruits of her hands. She girds her waist with strength, fortifying the reach of her arms, tasting the profit of favor. Her lamp does not go out at night. She sets her right hand to the spindle as she takes up the circuit. Her hands spread abroad to the needy. Her right hand reaches out to the destitute. – Proverbs 31:15-20, direct translation
In this time of lawlessness before Elohim [‘God’, YHWH], many see the kind of love that a wife of valor expresses as foreign. The unrighteous may even mock it, visualizing this wife of valor as a robot. That is the fear, resentment and perversity of the world. Reality is that this kind of wife is an example of righteous expression, dedication and love, evidence of love from a caring Heavenly Father. (Song of Solomon 8:6-7; “Is YHWH in Your Marriage?“; “The Garden of the Marriage Relationship“; “Agape: Discipleship is Renewal“)
“In the same way, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that if any are disobedient to the Word, they, without a word, might be won by the behavior of their wives, having seen your blameless behavior in fear. Your adornment should not be outward – arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on dresses – but the hidden Man of the heart, with the incorruptible ornament of a meek and peaceable spirit, which is of great value before Elohim. For in this way, in former times, the set-apart women who trusted in Elohim also adorned themselves, being subject to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him master, of whom you became children, doing good, and not frightened by any fear.
In the same way, husbands, live understandingly together, giving respect to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the favor of life, so that your prayers are not hindered.
To sum up, let all of you be like-minded, sympathetic, loving as brothers, tenderhearted, humble-minded, not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary blessing, knowing that you were called to this, in order to inherit a blessing. For “He who wishes to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil, and his lips from speaking deceit, let him turn away from evil and do good, let him seek peace and pursue it.” – 1 Peter 3:1-11, ISR98