Husband: Loving As Messiah Loved

by John Greene

“Husbands, love your wives, as Messiah also did love the assembly and gave Himself for it, in order to set it apart and cleanse it with the washing of water by the Word, in order to present it to Himself a splendid assembly, not having spot or wrinkle or any of this sort, but that it might be set-apart and blameless.” – Ephesians 5:25-27, ISR98

wife of valorThe apostle exhorts a husband that respects the purpose of Messiah to continually practice sacrificial love toward his wife. It can be a quite a personal challenge to love another with sacrifice, for man or woman. (1 Corinthians 13:4-13) The pressure of the system of man is great. (1 Corinthians 7:26-27, ananke) Scripture is clear about the honor of remaining single, even the wisdom of doing so because of the continuing violence between the new creation and the old man. (Matthew 19:12; 1 Corinthians 7:1-9; Colossians 3:1, 9-10; Ephesians 4:20-24; 2 Corinthians 5:17; Titus 3:3-6) The apostle consistently recommended that a disciple stay as he or she is. (“What Is Washing by the Word“; “Delusion & the Tightening Noose of the Beast System“)

Most that are married acknowledge that marriage isn’t easy, but this doesn’t deny the rewards. Love isn’t easy within the constant emotional upheavals of men and women, especially when a person has a flawed model, and isn’t focused in the right place. Disciples do have an example: “…for even Messiah suffered on our behalf, leaving behind an example for us, that you should follow His steps…” No, Yahshua [Jesus] wasn’t married, but gave an outstanding example as to how a disciple must live. All this is so that disciples can die to sin and live in Elohim’s [‘God’, YHWH] righteousness. (1 Peter 2:21-24) The ways of man’s world are NOT an option for a disciple of the Messiah. (“YHWH: The Choice to Stay Loyal“; “Your Master & Your Obedience“)

A husband is appointed to have the same kind of love that Yahshua [Jesus] shows toward the gathering of disciples. This love isn’t the ‘manipulative love’ of the world, but like Messiah, truly honoring and valuing your wife with a view to spiritual maturity. (“Agape: Discipleship is Renewal“; “The Dream: Christians & the Great Humanitarian Age“)

spiritual maturityThere remains a missing element for many. Even with all of your personal self-will, having the love of Messiah may seem impossible without the power of the Holy Spirit [Dedicated, Holy Spirit]. Husbands and wives forget to live as spiritual brothers in Messiah. They choose to identify with the carnal more than their spiritual trust. This is why Christians have so many troubles in marriage. It’s about focus and respect. Disciples in marriage continually operate in the flesh rather than His Spirit, forgetting authentic brotherly love, the same love that our Savior models. (“Listening to the Holy Spirit“; “Foundation of Salvation“; “Roots of Salvation“; “A Branch of the Vine Through Trust“; “Why Respect in Marriage is Important“)

“Your adornment should not be outward – arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on dresses – but the hidden Man of the heart, with the incorruptible ornament of a meek and peaceable spirit, which is of great value before Elohim. For in this way, in former times, the set-apart women who trusted in Elohim also adorned themselves, being subject to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him master, of whom you became children, doing good, and not frightened by any fear.

In the same way, husbands, live understandingly together, giving respect to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the favor of life, so that your prayers are not hindered. To sum up, let all of you be like-minded, sympathetic, loving as brothers, tenderhearted, humble-minded, not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary blessing, knowing that you were called to this, in order to inherit a blessing.” – 1 Peter 3:3-9, ISR98

angry-parentA husband is to live understandingly or by knowledge of her through respect. She is not a little sister to be picked on. A husband must understand that his wife is a joint heir of YHWH’s Kingdom, a brother (sister) in Messiah. This reality cannot be avoided. It is fact. If a wife embraces submission to her husband, it puts her in a weaker, more vulnerable position in the home. Care needs to be taken that prayers are not hindered. While gestures are okay, both need to create an environment where the other can flourish. Even when you don’t feel this kind of love and support in your marriage, you can elect to be a conduit of YHWH’s loving-kindness instead of falling into the ways of the world. (Luke 6:31, 9:23; Mark 8:35; John 12:24; Romans 8:13; Galatians 2:20, 5:24; 1 Peter 2:24) Marriage often requires that we die to personal desires, just as our Savior tells us to do.(“The Garden of the Marriage Relationship“; “Is YHWH In Your Marriage?“; “Will Your Marriage Survive the Coming Global Shaking?“; “Hindered Prayer in Marriage“)

Let’s repeat as we continue together:

“Husbands, love your wives, as Messiah also did love the assembly and gave Himself for it, in order to set it apart and cleanse it with the washing of water by the Word, in order to present it to Himself a splendid assembly, not having spot or wrinkle or any of this sort, but that it might be set-apart and blameless.” – Ephesians 5:25-27, ISR98

World ExplosionIn scripture, it is necessary to take what is being said in context. In Ephesians 5, Paul is tell disciples to walk as wise ones because days are wicked, understanding what the desire of YHWH is. Disciples are not be drunk with a world doomed for destruction (Revelation 19:8-9; Luke 21:25; Matthew 24:14), but filled with the Holy Spirit, worshiping with and loving one another in submission, rather than pretending to be superior. (Ephesians 5:15-21, Exodus 20:20; “The Need to Keep Spiritually Clean“; “The Stronghold of Anger“; “Wisdom & the Battle of Two Kingdoms“)

love-sincere-inspiration-imageHusbands are to love [agape, brotherly love] their wives, as Messiah loves the gathering of disciples and gave Himself for the gathering. In like fashion, a husband is to set his wife apart to YHWH, dedicating himself and her, to cleanse her with the washing of the water by the Word. The husband does this so that neither would have spot or wrinkle from the world, but to be set apart and blameless before YHWH. A man is obligated [ofilo, not ‘ought’] to love his wife as his own body. A man that shows brotherly love for his wife loves himself. He will be judged accordingly. (“The Secret of Dedicated Disciples“; “Defining Love“; “Submission in Marriage“; “The God of General Goodness“; “The Meaning of Humility“)

“For no one ever hated his own flesh, but feeds and cherishes it, as also the Master does the assembly. Because we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. ‘For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ This secret is great, but I speak concerning Messiah and the assembly. However, you too, everyone, let each one love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she fears [respects] her husband.” – Ephesians 5:29-33, ISR98

brotherly-love-in-familyThere is no secret or mystery concerning the brotherly love that a man is to have for his wife, even though the love of Yahshua [Jesus] for the assembly is not understood by the world of man. It is not beyond the ability of a dedicated disciple to understand it. All a disciple needs to do is to see what Yahshua [Jesus] did to save those that are willing to listen, those that are willing to truly recognize His sacrifice. Elohim insists that a husband to be willing to do the same for his wife. (“Forsaking Bitterness“; “Understanding Sin“; “Romantic Attachments: Sin & Righteousness“; “Being Set Apart Makes You Aware of Sin“; “Scriptures – Qodesh, Being Set Apart“)

“For YAHWEH so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son,
that everyone believing into Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
John 3:16, HRB
Heavenly Father,
Thank you for sending the Messiah, your only begotten Son to be my Savior. I believe in Him and have made this belief the center of my life. Because of this, by faith I have everlasting life! Thank you! I repent of my sins and of my past, freely admitting that I have fallen short of Your righteousness. I look fully forward to you in my life and commit my life to You. Thank You YHWH, my Heavenly Father for setting me free in the name of your Son Yahshua [Jesus]. May it be as you have promised!
genuine-articleYou will never enjoy true freedom through the Messiah and power of the Holy Spirit unless you read and absorb the Bible in prayer and trust. You will never know this freedom until you experience it for yourself. Get to know your Heavenly Father, His Son and allow the Holy Spirit to work in your life. The Holy Spirit is your teacher, your Holy Counselor that lives in you to help you learn about the truth of YHWH and His spiritual gifts.
Satan does not want you to have the excellence of YHWH in your life. People pray for protection and want to be taken care of, but often do little in growing close to Him. The world, your husband, your wife, your family, your government do not build your trust in YHWH or free you from spiritual bondage. Your church or your pastor cannot save you. Education, power and money will not free you, but only the Word of your Heavenly Father. Salvation is a daily walk, an act of love for yourself and for those around you, not a one-time event that centers only on you. Make the Word of YHWH your own, your very life!
YHWH is Yahweh, the covenant name of your Heavenly Father.
The names Yahshua and Yahushua are original language names for Jesus,
He is often referred simply as the Messiah or Master.
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